The world can be a cruel place. Sometimes it is outright cruel, and sometimes it is quiet whispers that plant seeds of doubt. As a young woman, it can be especially cruel.
Media tells us how we are supposed to act and look like. Families place their expectations on us. And sometimes even at church, being a young woman gets skewed to the world’s standards. So when our world lets us down, we are often left on the ground, struggling to pick up the pieces of our shattered hearts.
Identity. Who we are or better put who we think we should be based on the standards of the world.
But as Christian women, we are called to a completely different identity then what the world tells us. And when the world lets us down, we have to remember this identity which surpasses everything else because the One who has given us this identity will never let us down.
Nearly every woman at some point has heard the quiet voice whispering that they are not good enough. It sows seeds of doubt that when left unchecked can be weeds that choke out who we are in Christ. So what do we do when we realize that once again this fallen world we live in has let us down?
The easy answer would be to remember who we are in Christ. We are heirs to His kingdom, and the King of this kingdom loves us and sees our value. We were made in His image.
But the world tends to let us down in ways that aren’t so easy to combat. That quiet whisper telling us we aren’t good enough isn’t always from the media or secular sources. Sometimes that whisper comes from family, friends, and even the church. It is the repeated messages growing up that imply if we can’t get a good Christian guy by a certain age, we are clearly doing something wrong. It is the misinterpretation of the Proverbs 31 women and the implication that a good Christian woman and wife will only stay home. It is the quiet messages that led us to doubting that calling to pursue something like science. It can be the quiet disappointment from extended family members or the whispered excuses of not knowing how to interact with us. It is all these things that do the most damage because these are all places that are supposed to be a source of cultivation of our identity in Christ.
These whispers of not being good enough coming from the people we most trust are often the most devastating. Our foundation of support seems to have cracks in them, and suddenly, it feels like everything is tilting. We crash to the floor and stare dazed at the ceiling. What do we do now?
The thing is that the floor isn’t the foundation of a house, and those people aren’t our foundation. It feels like we have been knocked down, but take heart, my dear sisters, for we have been dropped into the arms of our Lord. He looks at us broken and tired, and He sees someone He has created in His image. He sees someone who is beloved and is part of His family. And suddenly, in that moment those quiet whispers vanish and all we can hear is His gentle reminder of who we are.
So we stand with His help, and we walk away from that floor with Him at our side. When we chose to listen, His voice overwhelms those quiet whispers. We just have to remember to tune our ears to His voice.
At times, it may feel like we are so far from our identity in Christ that we can’t get back to that, but remember that He has picked us from the depths of our sin. There is no where to far for Him to pick us up and remind us who we are.
So when the world lets you down, remember that we will always land in the arms of the One who will never let us down.