My home church is doing a series right now on Hebrews and how Jesus is better than anything. This got me thinking about why do we as Christians need a reminder that Jesus is better. Throughout the series as well as studying it in my small groups, I realized that we tend to get stuck in looking for the ideal, the ideal Christian life, the ideal Christian community, the ideal Christian relationships. These things in of themselves aren’t bad things, but when we get fixed on finding only the ideal, we look past the perfect plans that God has for us.
We aren’t promised a perfect Christian life, in fact, we are guaranteed trials and tribulations. And we aren’t promised a perfect Christian community because a church and a community is filled with fellow sinners. The same goes for finding an perfect relationship. So why do we strive so hard to look for the ideals?
I think that part of it is that it is ingrained in society. We are supposed to look and act a certain way because that is what those who came before us told us. For example, for a long time I felt like I was going against the grain because I was a women going into law enforcement. At one point, I had even been told that I would not find a good Christian man to marry because I was not going to look like the ideal Christian wife.
I remember standing at the crossroads of two paths: one being the path to what I was being told was the ideal and the path to what God was leading me to. I struggled with trying to understand why people in the Christian community were telling me that following God’s direction for my life would lead me to no longer being considered a good Christian. But let me let you into a secret, I followed the path to where God was directed me, and not only did I find a job where I could absolutely glorify God, but I also fell in love with a godly man who can lead me spiritually. If I had followed the path to in “ideal” of the people around me, I would not be where I am now and I would’ve ignored God.
Letting go of the “ideal” or “perfect” situations, scenarios, and people has shown me that everyone’s purpose looks different and everyone’s service in the name of the Lord looks different. My fiancé and I will end up with a different looking life then either of our parents, but the one thing that looks the same is the fact that he will be the spiritual leader of our household in the same way that both of our fathers were. I may not be what some people consider the “ideal” Christian wife, but what I do know is that I was faithful to what God called me to. By letting go, I honored God.
Instead of letting the search or the need for the “ideal” to direct you, take a moment and look at where God is directing you. Because at the end of the day, God is better than anything that we could search for or name as the “ideal”.